Sunday, September 28, 2014

Is "Black-ish" Offensive?

In a Huffington Post blog article by Frances Waters it is mentioned that "Black-ish" misses what past black TV sitcoms captured in regards of black culture. I think "Black-ish" missed those things on purpose as a learning opportunity. Keep on reading to see my thoughts on this controversial TV sitcom.




"First, the idea that there is only one essential way of being 'black' is incredibly problematic."

All of the characters do not hold this view, only Andre (Anthony Anderson). Andre does hold that view in the beginning of the episode and fails miserably trying to spread his "keep it real" gospel, but by the end of the episode he learns and resolves those feelings or beliefs. Andre Jr. (Marcus Scribner) says something to the effect, after his father accuses him of trying to be a white boy, that he is not trying to be white but only be himself and he is still trying to figure out who he is as an individual. Best to view this show by all accounts not only by the lead character.

"Black-ish serves to validate the stereotypes that 'keeping it real' means that all black people play the same sports, live in one type of neighborhood or that "fried, fried chicken" is a 'black thing,' rather than perhaps a southern thing. "

Did we watch the same pilot? Andre, at first, believed keeping it real was about basketball and eating fried chicken and what nots... By the end of the episode he has an epiphany that keeping it real means to do the best he could do for his family. The show is to serve as a learning opportunity for Andre, who grew up in the hood, but now is embarking in a new world of raising a black family in a predominantly white upper middle class. The dynamic part of this relationship between him and his family is that it is a collision of two worlds, and maybe three once you throw in Pops (Laurence Fishburne).

"The sad thing is that the producers, writers and actors seem to miss is that it is not fried chicken or playing basketball that defines who 10 million diverse black people are."

THEY DID NOT MISS THIS! Sorry for the all caps. They make the point that they are all different within the Johnson family. Rainbow (Tracee Ellis Ross) was arguing with Andre the whole show about this. She encouraged and was proud of her son making the field hockey team. It is a culture shock for Andre that a black person, let alone his son, wants to play field hockey and thus comes in the overreaction and the do not be black-ish gospel.

The show did a job well done of breaking down the stereotypes that Andre had of black people. He believed his son should played basketball because he is black and field hockey was for white people only. But through conversation he learns that there is a reason why his son wants to play field hockey. "Black-ish" challenges the black stereotype that blacks have of themselves and says that blackness cannot be obtain by doing certain things.

"Perhaps the problem is not where this imaginary family lives, but that these imaginary black parents have not taken the time to discuss the important and real challenges and victories of African American life today."

Once again, this is exactly the point the show wanted to make. This is not suppose to be a perfect family or great role models as the Huxtables were in the '80s.  It is time to embrace something new and realistic with imperfect family structure. Parenting is a learning experience and parents do not always have it right! Sometimes parents can learn from their children of what is wrong and right. AND THAT IS WHAT BLACK-ISH DOES with the pilot. The Cosby Show has already been done and it was successful. There are other type of black families then the Huxtables. Although the Cosby Show was and is a great show, a lot of black people couldn't relate it to real life experiences. The Cosby Show pilot episode was Cliff and Claire Huxtable being the fixers of the family, the children had a problem and mom and dad were there to fix it. Black-ish is sort of the parody of that where the children do not have any problems but instead it is the dad, and it is his wife and kids there to fix Andre.

"The juxtaposition of the pride taken in Jewish culture with the complete lack of context for the historical place of true African rites of passage programs that are far richer than the joke Black-ish makes them out to be..."

The whole Bar Mitzvah and African rites of passage scenes I thought were funny. This is a comedy and should be taken as such. Jokes wasn't offensive and if it was that is one of the facets of comedy: pushing the edge. Not making fun of those things but making fun of Andre's understanding of it. The Bro Mitzvah is based on Anthony Anderson's real life experience with his son. The kid wanting to change religions for his birthday is not that big of a deal to me; he is teenager in America so of course he wants to do whatever it takes to get the gifts! Wait, is that a bad stereotype?

Monday, September 22, 2014

Prince, Prince And More Prince


Lately I have been more than disturbed by my generation's view on musical entertainers. What really started to push my buttons was that everyone is calling Beyonce the greatest entertainer of all time and Ariana Grande a pop princess. Thus, I decided to write this blog post to inject myself with some turb (the opposite of disturbed). 

I am not here to throw shade on Beyonce when it comes to her talent because she clearly has "it". Powerful performances that commands the stage like no other, she is without a doubt currently one of the best stage entertainers. My problem with Beyonce is these self-assigned nick names. She first called herself KING B and Queen B, thus her fans championed behind that. You can't give yourself these titles, it violates natural pop-music law in my opinion. But here are 3 reasons why I truly don't like Beyonce:

3. When she talks during her performances she undergoes a spiritual and vocal transformation into a man. It freaks me out when she orders the crowds in her baritone voice to wave their hands or sing along.

2. Her fans calling her a musical genius... Umm no. Sure, she has a great ear for music and knows how to attack any track vocally. But I leave musical genius status to those who write and produce their own records. I'm okay with calling her a entertainment genius, i guess. #OnToTheNextOne

1. Beysus. I don't know where this came from and even care less to do any research.

Ariana Grande cannot sing well enough that I will listen to her again.

And then there is Iggy Azalea. That is a whole blog post on it's own.

So thus I ask for Prince, Prince and more Prince. With a dash of Andre 3000.





Has My Life Become Any Better Through Facebook?


I use to be that guy who thought it was pointless having a Facebook or Myspace account, plus didn't have tons of friends anyway (I can be socially awkward). Eventually I caved in and logged in for the first time circa 2011 or 2012. So since my time on this social media outlet has my life improve?

Nope, not really. Real life friends have dwindled in numbers. Haven't gain many significant friends through this media. Blocked a couple of "friends" and sure some may have blocked me (seldom do I post comments and statuses without thinking of consequences). Often I would go on Facebook just to fill the void of boredom or ignore life problems that I did not want to deal with at the time. But I didn't view every log in as filling a void instead I seen it as, "What's everyone up to?" 


I was in a dead marriage that did not provide any substance. In other words, no life accomplishments were achieved with Facebook at my side.

I know some people can use and handle Facebook without being sucked into the addictive brain-dead candy whirlwind. But I am not one of those people. Does that make me worse than those people who can control their Facebooking? I've been program by Facebook to even ask such a question and I honestly don't know if it makes me a worse human being. But admitting and avoiding the problem will make me a cuss-of-a-lot better as my own person.

The bottom of this social media low point for me was that this addiction spread into pornography. Let's face it, Facebook "friends" are not the most wholesome bunch. I don't exactly remember how it started but more than likely began by seeing someone liking a revealing picture of a person you are not even friends with. When you are bored or trying to escape life problems, you turn to dangerous things to fill that void in your life. 

Eventually, I went into creeper/stalker mode and browse through countless others profiles and slowly this venture into something you cannot control. But pornography addiction is another topic and won't get into now. Point is after a nearly two year struggle I finally have a good grasp on what is important. Not to say I don't fall occasionally but I'm now attacking it with the right attitude. Plus it's just not a good look to be viewing porn when your religious affiliation is Christian.

Will I delete or deactivate my account? Not sure on that yet (mainly because of my Spotify account is linked with my Facebook), and I don't think Facebook in itself is or was the main cause of my problems. Definitely will be on there a lot less, I prefer for it not to be folks' first option of contacting me.

Two article that you should definitely check out:
When You Stop Checking Facebook Constantly, These 10 Things Will Happen
5 Lessons Learned From Leaving Facebook